“You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel.”

Control, as a matter of fact, can be taken away from you in an instant. You wouldn't know you lost it until someone else had it. Each string of your conscience slipped in their palm. You don't know how it got there, did you just hand it over? Then before you know it you've lost control over your own peace of mind. With each strum of the strings, with each lyric more, the song gets harder and harder to listen to. But you keep moving to the rhythm of someone else song and you wonder how you even got on this dance floor anyway.

I cant settle on a quote. Too busy dreaming

Settling Down... the operative word being settling. I`m beginning to realize more and more that the things we all want in life are things that we settle on. Settling has two meanings; settling for something that you want and settling for something even though it might not be what you want. Either way there is settling involved in both.
I was always thought that we were supposed to dream and dream and dream for bigger and better things and never settle. But how do you ever end up with anything unless we settle at some point? I think that this is basically justified by the phrase of settling down, if you want anything you need to decided, choose and settle.
I think many people in life end up alone, or unhappy because they are taught to always dream for bigger and better things. Waiting for something to happen that im starting to think might never happen... for them.

“I shut my eyes in order to see.” -Gaugin

Does the world become a smaller place as we age or does the imagination over estimate?
Have you ever walked into a place you had not been to in a few years and thought; its smaller than I remember. I recently went to a place that as a child I thought was very big and intimidating. Proportionally the height ive grown to cannot be the reason for which it now looks smaller. When we are young are our dreams bigger than reality? Does that mean that our imaginations and by association our dreams are bigger than what is really existing in reality?
Dreams are supposed to be bigger than reality of course or they wouldnt be dreams, but - are they still achievable if you have an over compensating imagination?

"aim for the moon, if you miss, you may fall amongst the stars"

“I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells. Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living.” Dr. Seuss

People continuously refer to others as being 'down to earth'. I never remember learning what 'down to earth' actually means but I guess it means you are grounded, and in reality vs. in a fantasy world i.e; 'up in the clouds'. But maybe it would be kind of nice to live in a world 'up in the clouds', where you dont see the harsh reality of the everyday routine, and you make up your life around you to be whatever you like. Sometimes life is like that, you can imagine anything you want and make your life as interesting as youd like, you can be anything you want act any way you want.
It does sound crazy but you could just imagine you were...hmm lets say a Spy and make your life that much more entertaining. Also because you are a spy you wouldnt tell anyone anyway so people would think your grounded when really your not so what they call "normal". So im not sure what is better a life being 'down to earth' or a life being 'up in the clouds'... or even over the rainbow?

Somewhere over the rainbow
Way up high,
There's a land that I heard of
Once in a lullaby.

Somewhere over the rainbow
Skies are blue,
And the dreams that you dare to dream
Really do come true.

Someday I'll wish upon a star
And wake up where the clouds are far
Behind me.
Where troubles melt like lemon drops
Away above the chimney tops
That's where you'll find me.

Somewhere over the rainbow
Bluebirds fly.
Birds fly over the rainbow.
Why then, oh why can't I?

If happy little bluebirds fly
Beyond the rainbow
Why, oh why can't I?

“Is it weird in here, or is it just me?” -sw

There are several dating rules that are lay out in order to not "scare" a guy.
Dont talk about babies
Dont talk about Marriage
... maybe don't even joke about these things. As ive said before all things said jokes or not have some truth.(all things said when drinking are full truth (btw))
Lately though ive found myself talking to guys and these topics somehow come up. If i want kids, when and how many comes up. Marriage... joking about wanting to marry me or if im open to marriage atall. I find answering these questions are absolutely futile as you cant exactly plan these things, unless you actually plan them.
Ive come up with a few things on why these topics come up when they are apparently not supposed to:
1) Im "old" enough now that these topics arent taboo and are of importance.
2) Guys have become the ones who think about it too, spec. the older ones.
3) I subconsciously bring it to the surface of the convo indirectly.
All of these are bad.

However id like to think that topics of conversation as you get older are obviously going to change. I either need to actually consider these things, date younger people, or really ask myself if these things are in the back of my mind.
Personally Id rather just answer the questions by saying I cant really give you an answer and wonder in my head what is wrong with this person lol.

"Nice girls dont get the corner office"

As we get older we grow out of many things like calling people names and other non-sense that occurs on the everyday elementary playground. But what kind of non-sense goes on -on the adult playground? I certainly don’t need to name a few of the obvious things that people do to each other ie:guys/girls and relationship games that are absolutely ridiculous.
But do we grow out of being mean? Sometimes I feel like im on the grade 5 playground full of competition, confrontation and blindsided hits. Being mean is to do something to purposely hurt someone or annoy someone. I thought we'd grown out of this -but its a jungle gym out there and the mean kids can still come out to play. The modern jungle gym is different though, survival of the fittest has allowed us to become professional grade 5 bullies. Tactics are no longer treated by saying "sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me" because there is no rhyme for the world of jealousy, manipulation, competition, and narcissism that we play within. Unfortunently were all capable of this and its almost necessary every once in a while when the stakes are high

“When you leave New York, you ain't goin' nowhere”

I meet alot of people who say they love Montreal, and i meet a few people who say they dont like it very much. It bothers me when people dont like the city! I want people to like it here so that i dont feel as though im missing out on something else out there. My sister said she talked to someone who stayed here in MTL for a bit and didnt like it they also never used the metro system. I dont think that you can enjoy something if you are not using it properly. Trying to ride a bike backwards might work but its hard! If your not going to embrace the functionality of a city then you will not enjoy it. Cities are like big machines where we manage to work and operate fluidly without bumping into one another, making life possible. So, i think that if you come here and expect to do things a different way than they are done here, you will have a bad time. You cant act like you are in calgary when you are in montreal, you cant act like you are in new york in cowansville. If you want to enjoy a city you have to be the city your in.

“The test of an enjoyment is the remembrance which it leaves behind”

I recently read another blog about accomplishments we have and are proud of and how there is no trophy for these accomplishments. Ive come to realize that many of the things we strive to have in life, once achieved are not that exciting to anyone else but yourself. I also find that so many people are out there trying to impress and promoting their accomplishments on the proverbial bucket list by which we all compare one another. When i bought my car, i originally wanted a white one but settle for a silver one, i cared for about an hour that it wasnt white. My parents wanted me to be super excited about this car, i was happy but that's about as far as it went (im not one to jump up and down). All it means is now i can go places and not have to take the bus, good for me. Having a fun life is not defined by the books in your bookshelf, the groceries in your cart or the fact that you like to go to yoga.
Life is not a novelty item.

copy paste and read this:
http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2010/06/this-is-why-ill-never-be-adult.html

“All doors open to courtesy”

Feminism from how i perceive it, for one among many things is to break the barriers of things labeled as male or female.
Today on the bus, while sitting i watched a woman or two stand right over men who didn't offer their seat. Now, one could say they are not offering their seat because wouldn't that go against the false idea that women need seats more than men? Would a woman be offended that a man offered her a seat purely based on the fact that she was female. No, i don't think so. Although some people can classify more actions under feminism than it really is supposed to stand for I think we should still consider the importance, or at least the value in chivalry. Chivalry; knightly virtues, honor, courtly love... modernized.