“Rules are not necessarily sacred, principles are.” F.D.R

There are moments where we feel emotional imbalance. Its never clear and we cannot explain it, but the regular contentment is not there. So we sit and we ponder the question; "what do i need to feel better?".If this situation is about someone you like, the feeling might come across as missing that person or thinking you need that person. But the feeling isn't that atall, its the fact that you've been done wrong and been mistreated according to social laws about the respect we supposed to have for one another. And what you really need is for that person to fix what theyve done wrong not just temporarily bandage it up.
I realized that sometimes we tell people 'we are okay', 'its okay', and 'im okay with it', when really it isn't okay. We cannot say that we are sad because we miss that person, "but its okay that you've done something wrong to get me there". We need to be saying that; there are rules that your not supposed to break, unwritten rules, rules where you don't wrong the people who put so much faith in you.
So are we sad about the fact that we miss someone or are we upset because the rules are being abused, or is it both?