Sharing your birthday

Sharing your birthday isnt fun sometimes.

The proverbial Dog

They're so cute,
They make you happy,
You can go on walks with them,
You just found them... but you cant keep them.
Shoes are the proverbial Dog...
Unfortunately I just bought the cutest pair of shoes but they don't match the dress I bought! So im not keeping them. I would keep them but as a combined purchase its over 300$ and im not supposed to be spending that kinda of money... being a student and all. Its sad but they gotta go back.
Just like the puppy you cant afford to keep.

Public Panic

Did you ever notice that suddenly on the radio and the Tv they will have these adds that scare the shit out of you!? I dunno if any of you rememeber the one where the girl runs to the washroom to be sick and they post three questions... "Flu? Pregnant? Aids?" Are you serious!!!??? They should remake the commercial now and add "H1N1???" That kinda of stuff scares people! Its like webMD it can be really helpful but half the time its always gonna suggest the worst case scenario. It's definitely good to do some research on symptoms to present to your doctor but do not become your own doctor!

Anyway I was thinking of this today because on my way to the gym this morning I heard the second of two commercials about people who've become addicted to Meth. Theres one where a girl is talking and one where a guy is talking.

The reality is they actually send out these awareness commercials when incidences are on the rise. So im thinking... am I or someone I know gonna become a meth addict soon?!? Where is this coming from?? There must be a rise in cases for guys and girls! Anyway I heard you commercial, although its less scary than all the H1n1 awareness im ready to say no to drugs.

To be honest the whole society is run on fear. Think about a toohpaste commercial, Girls uses toothpaste and the next image shes got a husband and an ultra fantastic looking life. These commercials are desgined to make you think that if you dont use this product you wont get these things!

Beggars can't be Choosers

Whats the difference between persistance and begging? I would think that persistance is when you are trying to repeatedly get something in order to reach a goal, and begging is when youre trying to get something you can't have or shouldnt be given. The thing is you can say the same thing vise-versa so in reality they can mean very much the same thing.

Begging however probably leads people to look a little less dignified. So when my friends ex is asking her to hang out over and over should he be praised for being persistant or looked at as pathetic for continually trying after she has told him 'no' more than once on the same day.

Its a fine line, between looking like a fool and looking determined. I guess it all depends on what you're going for and how you go about doing it.

Karoshi

I just woke up from a nap because someone called me. Pretty annoying. But its a good thing they did because I probably would have missed school. Between school, work, and working out, etc I feel like I have a newborn, sleep when you can! Although I kinda of don't like taking naps because I wake up super groggy. I find you have to follow the rule: less than 20min or 2 hours to nap so you feel refreshed. If you break those rules waking up, eating and or showering usually sets you back on track.

One time I took a nap at work on my break. It was Sunday and the nap overlapped from my break into my shift a little but really it was that was the most revitalizing 25 min nap I can ever recall having. I was dying though I needed it so badly.

In Japan its actually okay to take a nap during work, in a meeting even! Okay, no snoring or actually lying on the table but your allowed to shut your eyes in silence for about ten minutes if you need to. There is a guy in my class who actually looked asleep the whole time, eyes shut didn't move but he was super genius. Anyway, I wish that some things were more acceptable in this society. Karoshi is what the Japanese call death from overwork. They often work longer hours and more days than in the West so perhaps this is why napping on the job is more acceptable.

I dont know what it is about people these days but there is never a day where I dont feel at least a little tired. Sleeping once a night is just not enough. I think that sleep needs to be prescribed differently. Like in Europe and the siesta. We as americans really need to reconsider our system.

Chocolate, men, coffee – some things are better rich.

In the last week i've been to Starbucks three times! I recently acquired a gift card and it's probably the best thing ever! Normally i don't visit Starbucks that often cause its so expensive. I like Tims but for different reasons. Tims is like your average bar that sells the standard beers and as per cocktails vodka cran. and sex on the beach. Starbucks is your swankier bar that can make you a strawberry mohito or a sour grape martini. More expensive but way more fun.

Its honestly amazing the stigma that comes with carrying a Starbucks cup. Its like you're higher up in society. I walked by a tim hortons with a huge window while carrying my Starbucks and I thought 'Don't judge me Tim people, Im actually one of you even though your coffee cost like a third of the price.' I also can drink hot stuff like ultra fast, but I thought I paid like 6 bucks for this I need to carry it around longer for status. Absolutely ridiculous I know.

But did you know that about two years ago Mcdonalds changed their coffee cups because a study showed that people wouldn't buy it, even though it was delicious, because there was a certain stereotype attached with drinking out of the Mcdonalds cup. I dont remember the cup, maybe it was kinda tacky looking. So they changed it the new one still has the 'M' marking on it but its a little more classy looking.

Its crazy how a coffee cup can mean so much. Starbucks is especially compelling as well because there is quotes on their cups! I love quotes, the ones for StarB go like this: "the way I see it...' There haven't been any I can actually remember. I do remember reading somewhere that there's like a FB group you can join called "I judge you based on the coffee you order at starbucks" The way I see it, Its probalby better to order a Mezzo non fat pumpkin spice latte no whip. Tastes the same.

“Life is a handful of short stories, pretending to be a novel”

Today I changed the name of my Blog. Some of you may be wondering why I chose this particular name and I shall tell you. I was trying to think of something powerful, captivating and interesting so i chose 'For Sale,baby shoes, never worn'. That is the shortest story ever written by Ernest Hemingway. It was created as part of a writing challenge to come up with something that tells a story, with the required beginning middle and end, all in six words. Its part of a writing style called 'Flash Fiction'. The more I understand the story the more I see it fitting for a Blog name. The entries here are meant to be short and sweet with a lot of meaning, well, most of the time. I at the very least want to get people thinking, and Ernest Hemingway's composition does just that.

I love quotes. As you may have realized alot of my posts so far are titles with quotes. Although EH's 6 powerful words are a short story and not, a 'quote', they are quite similar. I find that quotes are really useful in letting people know how you feel about something. Its short, to the point and contains all the essentials.

Recently i've found it more and more difficult to listen. Bad quality I know, but people tend to go on forever. I think that phasing out when people talk and only picking up key sentences can be a skill. I think its also because i've become extremely busy all the time making it hard to make time for long stories. So in the event of this realization I change the name of my blog and perhaps the direction of its purpose. Short, Sweet, Stimulating.

Tim madness

Tim Hortons is crazy. No matter what time I go to the one on the corner of Guy and Maisoneuve its a mad house. Lines so long they block entrances and invade the personal space of the people enjoying their 20 min time limit with their coffees.
I'll be honest there are a few times i've gone to a Tim hortons and had them mess up my order. Well more than a few...
I order "1 twelve grain bagel/cream cheese please" response: "okay so you want 7 muffins right?" im not even kidding, and neither was she.

If you try to order in English, in some stores, they dont understand ATALL. I mean, '10 timbits' doesnt translate well into french its understandable! I've gotten tea with no tea bag... hotchocolate that was mostly water.Now that I think about it I dont know why I go so often.

I think people go because they can. On a whim I decided to order coffee in my recent drive thru experience. A minute later I was wondering why I even got the coffee I didnt really want it! But the highway on the way to work practically leads into this 1.5 minute drive through making it just too hard to pass up.

Some restaurants put so much pressure you dont want to go in 'Ahem' Altaib. Others like Tim hortons will yell "hot chocolate?" for 5 minutes and still smile at the person who finally struggles through the crowd of packpack carrying, cellphone clenching students. Clearly they didnt realise Tims service is done in under 14seconds. These kinds of people are probalby not from Generation Y, were based on instant gratification. Tim hortons is our calling.

Another point is there is so many delicious things at Tims that I dont eat... I think I like to go and order coffee just so I can look at them and wonder what it'd be like to eat 20 timbits to myself... yum.
So for as long as there is a Tim hortons in our path I think its like moths to a light, were going to be unable to resist.

“True friends stab you in the front.” -Oscar Wilde

Friendships are the same as relationships. That doesn't make much sense, friendships are relationships. I meant relationships as in a relation with a possible future life partner. I say that because the require some of the same things. Attentiveness; ie. calling someone often, making time for them, being there for important dates, following up on them to make sure somewhat and so on went well, hows it going. When you break up with someone there is a declaration of the end point. It is stated and ensured to be true so that both parties know; 'Its over'. This means that they wont call you anymore, they don't want to hear about your bad day, and they don't care if you got the job or not.
Why do relationships end? Distance, change, infidelity? I think friendships can end for the same reasons; Distance: They still live 5 minutes from you, but were worlds apart in what we do everyday. Change: You and them don't have similar jobs, one of us is working on is in school all day. Infidelity: They've adopted a new friend, They spend more time with them than their best friend. They make plans with randoms but not with the people who matter.
There's a reality about friendships, that you can spend time apart and not see each other for a while or talk and when you come back there is no hard feelings. Its somewhat true that with the best of friends not checking in is not needed because you know that you will come together again. Why are we so lenient with friends and so strict with boyfriends and girlfriends? I guess its because its the same dynamic but to a lesser degree.
How do you know when a friendship is over? Even though you've tried to keep up your half of the relationship; the person seems distant, the situations have changed, different people have come into our lives, they don't call, they dont call back... they dont read your blog... they don't FB... They don't txt. Since friendships lack the declaration of the 'its over' statement. How long can someone go without dropping a line before you know its over?

“I travel not to go anywhere, but to go. I travel for travel's sake. The great affair is to move.” -RLS

Today an old friend of mine asked me if I had any trips coming up. To that I responded; Yes in fact I do, I'm going to Mexico in December, only I don't really consider that a trip, its all inclusive its an illusion. I'll be eating American food served to me by the closest they can get to American custom.
Don't get me wrong I'm definitely looking forward to the beach and the food and just the getaway but I don't consider any 'All inclusive' a travel experience. When someone tells me they're going to Cuba for the 5th time in their life, I don't know what to say. I've been to Cuba it is a very nice beach but there's just not enough trees and animals for me! Dominican is nice too but still its just kinda boring after a while. Maybe some people can stand to lie and do nothing for hours and days at a time but I can't. What I love about traveling is how you get to pick where you are going to stay each night, how you can search the restaurants... walk for like ten miles looking for a bakery and never find it (true story). Different beaches, different people.
Regardless im counting down the time to Mexico because getting away is still getting away and there are still things you can do and see that you can't do here at home. But will I gain any more or less than I would if I had traveled Europe alone instead? Im not sure, but I'm willing to try. Sometimes all inclusive's are needed in between the bigger trips.

Pants on Fire

I got into a conversation with a friend today, about confronting someone with a question. We concluded that the person can just be honest and tell the truth, or they could lie. You also don't know if their truth is the real truth or their lie is the lie you think it is.

I cant lie, I rarely attempt it because I'm so terrible at it. I don't know why its just cause i guess I figure people already know the truth. Usually when someone asks you something that is worth lying about its because they already think its true.

Sometimes though, people lie and alot of the time people get away with it. We all die in the end anyway (grim thought, I know) but why not tell a few lies to keep things running smoothly? My friend mentioned that life's too short anyway. Which if you think about it... How much and for how long can we get away with something?

Life kinda rolls through in sections, when your older a lie you told now probably will not matter. Of course... these aren't seriously lies, im talking white lies.
Im not promoting lying, im saying that when someone lies they should question first how long this is gonna be in effect.

There is probably nothing more stressful then keeping something to yourself. I say honesty is the best policy.

“I don't excercise. If God had wanted me to bend over, he would have put diamonds on the floor.” -Joan Rivers

Today I was at the gym and I was looking at the people working out wondering 'if they were on the street would I know they work out?' Some might say its hard to tell depending on where you are in your program; beginning or maintenance. For example: the guy with the super hot big arms... drool... okay he works out. For girls its a little different, not many girls have chiseled arms. For people in between I think that there is a certain way people look if they work out. Its subtle but you can tell. I think that this is what makes people feel good at the gym. Just knowing they go and that must set them apart from the average. It might just be one thing; a rounder bum or maybe a strong lower back. Its those small things you have to be appreciative about. You should be happy with what you got. It's important to work out, yes, to keep up cardio and remove all those extra bagels I eat but that's about it. As long as I go Im happy, regardless of any drastic changes. When I look in the mirror I feel like maybe its just an illusion but there's small differences. Maybe its not real and Im seeing things but either way makes me happier.

Life isn't a movie...

Yesterday I went to a wedding. Right before the ceremony I asked my friend if after watching the ceremony I would want to get married too. You see, its like those movies about a dancer or about a person who plays an instrument, you always want to be them after you see them succeed in some way. So after the ceremony I found I still wasnt convinced. It was your typical wedding but still not my thing.

The groom gave a speech where he specifically said he always thought he wouldnt get married it wasnt 'his thing', but that all changed when he met the one. He said he knew the second he met her that they would get married.

I think the whole wedding was just out of perspective for me. I didnt know the families and the guests and I wasn't hearing all the conversations going on between bride and groom and family. Im sure it was without a doubt and quite obviously a completely different day for them. For me it just felt like another wedding... looked like everyother wedding.

So my thoughts are that it wasn't my wedding. By that I mean; even if did get married in the same venue had the same setup it would be really special cause it would be mine and my husbands and we'd be seeing everything from the eyes of the prize.

Sometimes watching other people get married etc.. you start to wonder where your life is in comparrison. Maybe I should change all kinds to be more on the path of settling down and getting serious. But really I dont think it happens like that it's really more like night and day. You meet someone and that changes everything.

So a wedding isnt like a movie where you cant be inspired to get married. You can always learn to dance or learn to play guitar but you cant learn to get married. You can't plan it so whether today I'm set on getting married and tomorrow its not my thing.. you never know what will happen.

It is one of life's bitterest truths that bedtime so often arrives just when things are really getting interesting. ~Lemony Snicket

Yesterday was a busy day I forgot to post at the end of it. Another reason for that was I was doing something I probably shouldn't have done. Yesterday started out pretty good... I woke up and started working on school stuff. I called major construction company and got them to collaborate with me on a project, and then completed an exercise for another class. I then went to the gym and spoke with my trainer and did my program. I then went to school early worked on a project and then I went to class; good work. Somewhere along the way the night caught up with me.

By that I mean to ask; Do you ever feel like days are for good, nights are for bad? We don't drink... before lunch. We don't go to clubs in the morning. We don't swear at the breakfast table...but we might at the dinner table. Do you ever wake up in the morning and think: Oh god... why did it do that last night? Sometimes, things that seemed like a good idea last night, in the clarity of morning seem all wrong. This is why I truly believe the expression 'sleeping on it is actually a formula for figuring things out.

By night it's almost like the more shadowy places to hide the more incentive to be more shady about how I think and act. Last night I definitely did that; and now I feel kinda bad about it. I don't know if I can say that it wasn't worth it at all, because I'm not quite sure what the opportunity costs were. My alternative plan was going out for drinks, instead, with classmates. I've put them off a few times now, unfortunently. I'm not big on drinking. But last night on the way home after all was said and done... I definitely felt the need for a drink.

Time Management

Today I went to work. Told myself id come home from work and do my Assignment and then go to school to download it. Unfortunately I got about half of that done. I sort of read the instructions to the Assignment and then ended up on MSN helping classmates do their assignments.
Why do we panic about time? I panic about not having enough time all the time! The problem is, is that there is only so much you can do in a day. So many limitations. I couldn't go to school cause the PC room I need is locked at this hour. And I cant go outside to do the GPS part of the Assignment cause well its too late and dark out now. Its only 9:17 but i live in a kind of dangerous area. Anyway I think its about time management. Even though there are 24 hours in a day every hour has its limit. Many of the hours im sitting on my PC or infront of my tv trying to work out when I can get shit done. Ugh oh well.. If i've learnt anything about myself through university and this first year of masters... is that I will eventually get it done. It will happen. (actually funny I just remembered I have an assignment due tomorrow with a group and we werent able to complete it) Probalby the first time I haven't handed anything in. But this is a real time project and no companies have confirmed that they want to work with us yet.

So here i am sitting here starring at my BB wondering where all those wonderful txt'rs went for the night?? I guess it comes and goes... anyway I have to start working on something. Sorry this post is boring, ive re-written it like ten times.

How do you Blog without the Boring

Ex's always come crawling back , whether a year later or a week later they do in some way or another. Why do they do this?? I don't think i've ever thought "hmm, i think im gonna call so and so from two years ago see what they're up to!?" no lol it doesn't happen. When im over someone they are over.

This might also be because I, along with them, realize they were jerks and I was the nice one. Nice is an overall encompassing word cause im not that nice. Currently I speak to 2 of my ex's one of which we never stopped talking, and hes already has his come back moment. The second seems to be interested in the come back now. However he hasnt yet apologized for being a complete child two years ago. I dont know if he even plans to. Its like the past didn't happen. So far im not interested.

These boys are just names that pop up on my Blackberry every once in a while they are really just a source of entertainment. Other names that come up on my phone are the Charmer... Im a sucker for a good smile and hes got one. Sucks though, thats all he has to offer for now. I turned down a rendez vous with him tonight, i wanted to go actually, i got half heady showered...i dunno. But i need to be convinced into things and he wasnt to eager to convince. I can pretty much be convinced into anything. Thats my secret dont tell anyone.